Paying For Dues

by Maggie B.

So here you are, you have gotten through your first round of Formal Recruitment-Yay! You’re feeling confident, you are loving the connections you are making and you are starting to truly see yourself becoming a Panhellenic woman.

You arrive at your spot to see your Recruitment Counselor for the day and she says it is the day that the Chapter Women will be speaking to you about Chapter Finances.

*Cue the anxious feeling in your gut*

This was me two years ago, when I sat in multiple houses, dreading the thought of how I would be able to make ends meet to pay for it on my own.

You may be feeling this way too, and that’s alright, but do not worry! There are many ways to navigate Chapter Dues.

Save, Save, Save

I began to try and save up some extra money before I came to Florida State and went through Recruitment, and it really helped ease my mind! I also saved without pinching my pennies, for example grabbing a coffee at my Chapter House rather than spending money on Starbucks for the third time that week. You do not have to be ballin’ on a budget and cut out all of your favorite things, but use what is available to you at your Chapter because you are paying for it.

Part Time Jobs

You’re probably sitting there thinking “Is she serious? How will I ever have time for a job?”, and you may not have 20 extra hours a week to go to work. However, many part time jobs in Tallahassee go to us college kids, and managers understand that we have crazy school schedules and other commitments. Many managers understand that you may need some days off for study sessions or Philanthropy events, and that is okay. I can tell you from personal experience, I was nervous about taking a job and not being able to fulfill my responsibility between my Chapter commitments and my school work, but I have done it for two years and I love it.  Getting a part time job will help to alleviate some of the stress of finances, because you will be making money to replace what you have spent.  

Scholarships

Yay free money! Just kidding, you do need to apply, but take opportunities to look for scholarships! Many Chapters offer scholarships to help cover dues, and you can get private scholarships that will help as well. Also, check out your Chapter’s National website, many of them offer hundreds of scholarships each year to women in financial need.

Payment plans

Many chapters offer different payment plans to help out their members. Whether it is a lump sum payment at the beginning of the semester or payments divided monthly, make sure to ask the chapter women you speak to what their Chapter does. They are happy to answer your questions, I promise!

My last piece of advice is to not let your concerns about finances define your entire experience, or to let it change your opinion on a chapter. Take the money part out and really view the chapter itself- if you love it enough, then the financial side will work itself out, I promise you. All of the Panhellenic women you meet really want to get to know you and what you are all about, so let them see you without the nerves. Ask them all the questions that you want, they are willing to help you understand everything. Oh, and one last thing, do not be afraid to talk to your recruitment counselor about this. I know I did, and she was in my same situation and was able to help me walk through the idea of paying for it on my own. We are here for you!

Let yourself shine through in this process, and do not let the fear of dues drag you down.  It is absolutely possible to pay your own dues!

Legacy Story by Hannah S.

Legacy Story

by Hannah S.

Legacy. What exactly is it? When I first heard the term, I thought it was referring to a legacy I was going to leave somewhere. Legacy, in Greek Life, refers to having any of your direct relatives involved in Greek Life. For example, you can be a legacy to a chapter if your grandma, mom or sister is an alumna of said chapter. Going through recruitment as a legacy is a little different than if you were going through recruitment having no relatives involved in Greek Life. In a way, you have a bit of an advantage being a legacy since you have your family member to inform you on what is going to happen during recruitment and what it was like to be in a sorority.

I am a legacy to three different sororities; my maternal grandma is an alumna for chapter A, my paternal grandma is an alumna for chapter B, and my mom is an alumna for chapter C. I felt as though I was completely prepared, that I had this recruitment thing in the bag, but as soon as recruitment actually started I was just as stressed, lost, and confused as every other PNM going through recruitment. In a way, I felt like I had more pressure than my non-legacy PNM friends. I would always hear things like:

“Wow, you’re so lucky! You are definitely getting into a sorority!”

“How are you going to choose between those three?”

“You don’t fit in chapter A, how are you even a legacy for it?”

I’ll admit, the last comment really stung. Each time I got that chapter back, I was confused. Did they like me for me, or because I’m a legacy? Am I really not that pretty? Are they too weird for me? Am I too weird for them? Why, why, why? What makes me so different than everyone else? My question was quickly answered when I was released from that chapter. In a way, I felt relieved, but I was also very nervous about telling my grandma that I was released from her chapter. What was I supposed to tell her? Would she be upset? I eventually told her and she gave me the best advice I could have received during recruitment week:

“It doesn’t matter what I think, what your mother thinks, or what Grandma B thinks. You need to find the right chapter for YOU. Don’t worry about us, we’re going to be okay if you don’t get our chapters, but you need to find YOUR forever home, not our forever home.”

As soon as she told me that, I went through the rest of recruitment with a different attitude. I had been keeping chapter B as an option only because my other grandma was an alumna and I didn’t want to make her upset. That night, I released myself from that chapter and kept a chapter I was planning on releasing instead because I actually loved that chapter. I ignored all the comments from everyone else and I just did me. I kept the chapters I loved and released myself from the chapters that I knew were not my forever home.

The next day, preference day, was one of the hardest days for me. I had three chapters remaining that I absolutely loved, one of them being my mom’s chapter. I went through pref and I was confused the entire day because I just loved them all so much. I couldn’t decide which chapter was going to be my forever home. I spent hours upon hours talking with my Recruitment Counselor trying to decide what order I was going to place the chapters and which one I wanted a bid from the most. I was torn. I had my mom’s chapter that I fell in love with, but was still unsure of whether they actually wanted me for me. I had another chapter whose philanthropy really hit home for me. And the last chapter had amazing women that I could see myself being best friends with. My Recruitment Counselor gave me another piece of advice that I still stand by today. She told me “Which one is the one you will always walk by and wonder what’s going on in there?” I immediately had my answer. I made my decision, entered it in the computer system, and waited anxiously to see what the day would bring me tomorrow.

I ended up placing my mom’s chapter first and I was extended a bid from them. In a way, I always knew that I was going to end up there. It was the chapter I was always looking for throughout the week. It was the one that I was most excited about visiting all week. I knew all along that they really liked me for me because they remembered me. They wanted to get to know me and not once did they bring up the fact that I was a legacy.

Being a legacy is great; it can be stressful and challenging at some points during recruitment week, but finding your true home in the end is always worth it. You may not end up in the chapter you’re a legacy for and I’m here to tell you that it’s okay. Find the chapter that you love, where you feel like you fit in most, where you feel comfortable going to with no make-up on, hair in a messy bun and in the same clothes you’ve been wearing for a solid week. Your true home will accept you and love you for who you are. Whether that’s the chapter you’re a legacy for or not is all up to you and how you feel.

So, go through recruitment with an open mind and open heart because you will find your home in the end no matter which path you take.


 

Better Late Than Never

Better Late Than Never

Everyone comes into college with their own perception of what Greek life is. I came from a small high school and was your typical tomboy. My best friend, being the polar opposite of me in every way, especially because she’s a gator, knew that Greek life was for her. I thought being in a sorority meant that you liked to dance in slow motion as it rained glitter and have pillow fights in your mansion.

What I Wish I knew Before Going Through Recruitment

What I Wish I knew Before Going Through Recruitment

Making the decision to go through Panhellenic Recruitment was easy, but the hard part was not knowing what to expect. My understanding of a sorority and what it meant to be a Panhellenic woman was limited at best and I had little to no idea of what the recruitment process was like.  Besides a few friends of my mother’s, I knew two women in sororities at Florida State and my perception of their Panhellenic experience was solely based off of social media. To say that I was clueless about Recruitment or sorority life was an understatement, but that’s completely fine because I was not alone. The majority of women that go through this process have no idea what to expect, so here is some wisdom from a former lost and overwhelmed Potential New Member to another:

Q&A With Your Future Recruitment Counselors: Why are You Proud to be a Panhellenic Woman?

Q&A With Your Future Recruitment Counselors: Why are You Proud to be a Panhellenic Woman?

I am proud to be a Panhellenic woman because the experiences that I have had and the people that I have met through my sorority experience sincerely helped me grow into the best version of myself. These women have taught me how to conquer the world in times that I would’ve let it crush me. They have helped me set goals and aim higher for myself and for my future. They have helped me accept and love the person that I am. They have shown me how to, not only accept, but to LOVE the person that I am.

Reputation vs. Representation

Reputation vs. Representation

Something that has crossed my mind a lot lately is the idea of reputation. What exactly does a reputation mean? The definition ofthe word reputation is " the beliefs or opinions that are generally held about someone or something". As I somewhat figured, reputation stands for how others see you. How others view sorority life and Greek life in general has become a huge problem. Reputation holds a sort of competitive aspect and has a more negative connotation. When trying to uphold a reputation, people are aiming to be better and to have a better outward image and name. As a Panhellenic community with over 2,000 women throughout 17 chapters here at Florida State University, shouldn't we be working to build each other up, rather than tear each other down?